Obedience to the parent

As Asian/Chinese children, we seem to be obedience to our parent's order  or wish. Even though we're not happy or disagree with their opinion, order or decision, we most likely will obey. Remember during high school (even now), I get very frustrated when friend make their decision based on their parent wish. The most common is  their degree and at the end they don't even know why they are getting that degree.

I was trying very hard to live and do thing in my own way, however, I could not completely escape from this tradition or "responsibility". May be this is what they society has brain-wash us since young.

I am glad that my parent always give me lots of freedom in making decision.  may be i'm not listening However, when they are getting older, they intend to persuade you to stay and live with them. You will feel bad/shit if you're not doing what they wish although deep down you prefer to go for your own path and way. I completely understand how they feel but I think parent should also take initiative when managing their elderly, like making new friends, join activities, etc. It can't just be their child's responsible of making sure they are happy. Pls putting so much hope on your children, it could reduced the indirect pressure to their child and both parties will be happier.

It is such a conflict feeling for me when deciding between parent's life and my life. Hopefully I'll remember how I feel now; so when I am getting old, I'll be a cool and happy old lady/mum without worrying my family.